Guess What Honey - My husand said, "I Want to Become a Woman."

The realization that the man I married was not the man he portrayed himself to be was shocking and devastating. I had been married for eight years and had two small children at the time. I had to ask myself, "What do I do now?"

I had walked into what I believed was a heterosexual union. I was led to believe that our roles in our relationship were clear and permanent. How could I have been so blind? At that moment I thought to myself, “I must be a total moron” —and I'm sure anyone else in the same position would feel the same way! My recommendation to any spouse in my position is to get ready to experience the stages of grief – denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, grief and stress, and finally, recovering from grief. Then, move on with your life; don’t let this bad experience haunt you. Life is full of blessings and it is your job to go and get them. The struggles of transgender individuals (people who feel they were born in the wrong gender) are more and more in the public eye. The media is beginning to deal with the difficulties of families dealing with transgender issues. As the ex-wife of a transgender person, I now feel a pressing need to add my two cents on a topic that is still largely misunderstood: the challenges and feelings faced by the spouses of transgender people. Thus far, my feelings and observations on this subject have not been mirrored by anyone I have seen or heard in the media over the years. I think it is time for us to raise our voices as well. What I will share on my website is drawn from the memoirs I wrote in the initial stages of my separation from my husband, discussions with my peers, and the 20-20 hindsight I have from looking back on my experiences. I have not seen the end of this journey but I do have a wealth of knowledge from tough lessons learned. I will share what I know so far - my shock, my fear, my sense of hopelessness, my recoveries, my mistakes along the way, and my rewarding victories. Related services________________________________________________________ Life Coaching This service is for the transgender (born male), living in the Tampa Bay area, who wishes for guidance on apparel, hair, makeup and general knowledge of the dos and don’ts associated with being a woman. My knowledge in this field comes from the years of experience I have from helping my ex-husband be the woman he is today. For further information contact guesswhathoney@aol.com To inquire about information on artworks by Ann or to purchase prints of Honey, 2009 or other images from the www.guesswhathoney.com website, email guesswhathoney@aol.com.

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About Guess What Honey: A website and service designed to help wives, ex-wives and the transgender people they married through this tragedy. I have three children and can offer limited advice regarding children because I feel my kids need their privacy, after all they are the collateral damage in this life experience.